“Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.” ~Octavia Butler
I’m not shy to admit that I don’t have many friends. I’d rather have 10 real friends than 100 fake ones. I don’t know with you, but friendship is something I don’t take too much risk in. I’m actually very careful in letting people into my life. I want genuine friendship, that’s why.
While I can easily talk about my life story to other people in one sitting (chatty much!), I only share the highs and lows of my life and my wild and dark secrets with my close friends. And it makes me wonder why some people can be so judgmental. Just because you know a few things about a person doesn’t mean you know him/her already. It’s not that simple.
They say people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I think it’s very true. When it comes to making friends, I believe that genuine friendship is forever. If I would consider you as my friend, you’d have a place in my heart reserved just for you. Even if we don’t talk often, are not present in each other’s personal milestones or special events, you’re still my friend. Even if we haven’t communicated in ages, you’re still my friend and I would continue to care for you in many ways. You may not see or hear from me, but I’m just here for you. You are always in my thoughts and the random things I see (plus the four other senses) could easily remind me of you. You just have to believe in the power of our friendship just as I do. I’m a weird friend, right? Yeah, take it or leave it.
In fairness to me, I try to touch base with my friends naman whenever I have a chance. It’s just that in this complicated world we live in, we are trapped in so many distractions (e.g. technology, career, family, etc.) that it gets difficult for us to have meaningful conversations and bonding moments with our friends (and even family members for some) all the time.
I’m also the kind of girl who’s not very showy with her feelings. (I even used to think I’m a “rock” with no emotions, whatsoever.) My family and the hubby can attest to that. It’s just recently that I’ve been more vocal and physical about my love for them. Funny, but true.
I remember one time my superfriend made tampo to me because there’s this one scenario when our paths crossed in the workplace, we were walking in the hallway with our respective officemates then, and she said hi to me and I just looked at her and didn’t return the greeting, literally. She thought I ignored her when I was, in fact, saying hi back to her through my eyes. Haha. It was no big deal to me but she was hurt by my response (or the lack of it). I explained my side and apologized to her. I may have not committed a sin to her intentionally but I acknowledged the fact that I had hurt her with my reaction so I said sorry sincerely. And so we’re still superfriends (almost like sisters!) up to this day. But I digress.
Genuine friendship is hard to find. You may have been friends with someone for a long time but the deep connection isn’t there. You may have been friends with someone only for a short time and yet it feels like you are kindred spirits. The latter is the kind of friendship that’s worth your emotional investment. It’s the kind of friendship that can withstand the tests of time, distance, and space. It’s the kind of friendship that is pure, genuine, and worth keeping.
Care to share your thoughts on genuine friendship with me? Pretty please? 🙂