I was reading several pages of a Bo Sanchez e-book titled “How to Conquer your Goliaths” last night and from there, I found out he got molested as a child. He mentioned that this sad event left him with a wounded heart and to fill that gaping wound, he felt that he needed everyone to like him. For years, he only had the intention to please other people. God has healed him eventually but he admitted “this weakness rears its ugly head every once in a while.”
But I’m not here to talk about child molestation or its long-term effects. I just thought about how many of us, molested or not, tend to please everybody. It’s as if we automatically got this intention to please the moment we were born. Worse, it’s as if our life depended on other people’s approval or good impression of us.
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When you have a friend in need, it just feels right to help him. When you have a friend in need, you just help right away. You don’t ask for something in return, you just help with good intentions in mind. This is especially true when you have the resources that could lighten your friend’s burden. It could be time, energy or money. It could even be just emotional support. The right thing to do is always to help.
Helping a suffering friend stops only when you have run out of resources to offer him. It also stops when he doesn’t listen to your advice anymore and starts to solve his problem his way. It doesn’t have to continue when he makes you feel more involved with the problem than he is. It doesn’t have to continue when you have started to make it your life mission to get him out of trouble. Furthermore, the helping should end when it starts to get in the way of your priorities in life: family, career, daily activities, etc.
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I welcome 2014 with open arms. Hopefully, I’ll be able to do more this year in all the aspects of my life. More in terms of learning new stuff, meeting new friends, gaining new experiences, reading more books, watching more movies, trying out new restaurants, spending more time with family and friends and appreciating life even more.
2013 has been a pretty good year for me. I felt very blessed and satisfied with almost everything. I want this year to be a more beautiful version of that year. The human being in me continues to aspire for something more. No contentment, you’ll say. But I actually feel content and it’s evident in the fact that I’m not setting new goals for this year.
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Losing weight is a choice, getting fat is optional. That has been my mantra when it comes to managing my weight. Recently, I have come to realize that getting to your ideal weight is a lifetime process. I gain weight and I lose it and the cycle goes on and on.
There is no such thing as the perfect diet or exercise plan. It’s our lifestyle and eating habits that determine how small or big we would be. How I lose weight is no secret. I just decrease my calorie intake and increase my physical activity. I don’t deprive myself of any food (though there was a time I gave up on pork and soda!), I just try to eat everything in moderation.
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They say jokes are half-meant. That people say jokes to communicate their subconscious thoughts indirectly, in a light manner. This is sometimes true and sometimes not. I believe it depends on the true intention of the person when joking. Jokes are people’s way of switching to a different topic or simply making things lighter and more fun. Sometimes, jokes are people’s way to show that they are in control of things, even if oftentimes that’s not really the case.
I love to joke around with people. Yes, I can be cool like that. But I guess, sometimes, I tend to give the meanest jokes that some people get offended by them. But what can I do? I’m just trying to keep things light. Or perhaps, in some situations, I’m just trying to lessen my worries when deep inside I’m anxious about something. At least I know in my heart I don’t have bad intentions when I say these jokes.
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